I've never been the type of girl to have all girl outings. Even as a little girl, I understood and got along with boys so much better than their counterparts. I never understood why someone wouldn't play kickball because they might mess up their hair, or why on earth they would wear a dress to school in the first place so they didn't have to play. I'm not saying I was a tomboy, but I never really understood girls and why they are the way they are.
Don't get me wrong, I love my girlfriends. I've had 3 girlfriends since grade school whom I spend every Christmas and birthday with and they'll always be there for me. I guess I just didn't know how to make new girlfriends. Once out of high school, I guess things get complicated and people get stuck in their lives and don't have time for new friends. I definitely fell in this category.
Then I got married. And while spending the days with the love of my life and my very best friend is extremely satisfying, sometimes you just need some femininity in your life. I'm sure it's very draining for Blake to have to listen to my summary of this weeks' episode of Downton Abbey, or having to look at me try on thousands of different outfits at the mall only to walk away empty handed, or being begged to do yoga with me every week. By the way, he does these things very willingly for me whenever I ask him, but I'm sure he's not jumping for joy inside when I say I need new shoes :).
The simple fact of the matter is, girls need to be with girls sometimes. They need to talk about stupid girl things. They need to do silly girl things together. And while we love our men more than anything in this world, it's nice to have a girly moment every now and then.
As I've gotten older and am approaching my dreaded age (cough**27**cough), I realized I have hardly any girlfriends that I could call up on a whim to hang out. This is what inspired the idea of my sisterhood diaries. These entries will contain all the adventures I have while rekindling old friendships and making new ones.
I decided to start simple and set a goal of having lunch with a different girl once a week. This week was my first lunch. I picked up some sweet pork salads from Costa Vida and brought them over to her house so she wouldn't have to travel with her 2-month old daughter. I've known Krystal since at least kindergarten, maybe earlier. We grew up in the same ward together and had most of the same teachers in elementary school. She's been one of my dearest friends for as long as I can remember.
Lunch was delicious, her little girl was absolutely adorable and well-behaved and we had great conversation. She mentioned she's been having trouble unpacking the boxes in their new home because she has to constantly hold her baby girl and her husband is at medical school almost every second of the day. This inspired me to take this lunch date idea to the next level. I've decided that after each lunch, I'd find a way to help this particular friend in one way or another. I want to gain friendships, but I also want to provide service, because let's face it, no one is ever truly happy unless they're helping someone else.
My revised goal is to have lunch with a new girl every week and before the next lunch, I have to help that girl in someway. I'm going over on Saturday afternoon to take care of Krystal's baby girl so she can get some unpacking done and get her house set up.
I'm so excited about my new plan! I love helping other people, especially people that I care about. First week of the sisterhood diaries = SUCCESS!
